I was hoping maybe with new headunit I could upgrade to the new Driving assistant with hands free over 40 Mph. Like many others on the forum, had I known BMW was going to orphan early adopters I probably would have waited to buy. I love the car, but came from Tesla and was used to things being updated as long as possible.
Ah yes, I used to be in the same camp as you. I was planning to wait for the '24 model just for this feature.
However, after owning my '23 iX for 3 months now, I'm very satisfied with the current system. On long trips (3+ hours), I use my knee or the back of my left hand to keep the friction on the wheel, and I rarely get any nags. It's so relaxing I just listen to the great sound system, and literally forget that I'm driving. Most importantly, I'm not tired at all when I reach my destination.
I love using the 40 mph Traffic Jam Assistant when stuck in heavy traffic in Los Angeles, and sometimes I can go more than an hour without touching the wheel. However, if I look away to talk to a passenger, or check my phone, or even momentary hold my coffee cup over my face, the system starts nagging me. This happens more often than I would like. So, the "hands-off" system in some ways can cause some added stress due to surprises. Now I tend to keep a finger on the wheel now at all times just so I don't have to think about it. It's actually less anxiety provoking for me this way!